A new chapter: why divorce can be a blessing in disguise
There is no shying away from the fact that a divorce can be a very stressful and painful experience. Coming to an agreement about everything, from who will keep the family home to how child arrangements will work, can take a great deal of time and energy.
While the divorce process can take its toll, there are also some positive changes which can result from a divorce.
You are now in control of your own future
Being married involves making compromises. Now that you are single, you are free to create the future that you want. What do you enjoy doing that your other half was not keen on? Where do you want to travel to? Are there people you have not seen for a while that you would like to get back in touch with?
Your future is a blank canvas and you can create whatever painting you like. Think about what you would like your life to be like and focus your energy on achieving your goals. This is your opportunity to shape your own future.
Use the time you have gained to focus on what is important to you
Relationship break-ups are often messy. All that worrying about your relationship and separation probably took up a great deal of time and energy. Once your divorce is finalised, you are free to spend that time with your family and friends or on a new hobby.
Really get to know yourself
Now is your opportunity to spend time getting to know yourself again. Take this chance to find out what you enjoy doing. Whether it is learning a new language, going to Zumba classes or travelling the world, this is your time to get to know who you really are.
While no one wants to end up going through a divorce, it does not have to be an entirely negative experience. Taking control of your own future, and leaving behind the negative energy which often goes hand-in-hand with the end of a marriage, is just one of the positive elements of a divorce.