Getting a divorce is likely to be one of the most difficult times of your life. For fathers, the thought of not being able to see their children as regularly, and financial issues such as how the family home will be divided, can play heavily on their minds.
In this article, we will reveal our top tips for fathers going through the divorce process.
Take time to stop and think before acting
Everyone deals with divorce in their own way, whether they be a man, woman or child. This means that a little patience and understanding can go a long way towards making a divorce more amicable.
When speaking to your wife (or if you are considering speaking to your wife) about an issue, think carefully before responding and consider how your actions and reactions will affect not only your wife but your children, too.
You are both likely to be hurting and may snap and make hurtful comments because of this. Focusing on taking a few breaths before responding – or simply listening without interjecting – can help to release some tension and reduce knee-jerk reactions.
Reaching an agreement on everything from how your assets will be divided, to where the children will live and how much time they will spend with the other parent, can help you to avoid lengthy and expensive court battles, which could result in a judge making a decision which neither of you wanted.
In addition, maintaining an amicable relationship with your wife will also benefit your children in the long run.
Get your own independent legal advice
Many fathers worry that the law is somehow biased towards mothers when it comes to being able to see their children after divorce. In fact, the law focuses on the rights of the child and their right to see both parents, provided it is in their best interests. More practical considerations, such as where each parent lives, where the children go to school and the age of the children, will also be examined.
Seeking legal advice from a solicitor experienced in divorce law, rather than listening to anecdotal stories from friends and friends of friends, can help you to gain an understanding of how divorce law works and what your divorce may look like, so you can begin productive discussions with your wife, with the aim of reaching an agreement outside of court, right from the very start.