Anyone who has listened to any of Adele’s songs will know that the singer songwriter does not hold back when it comes to matters of the heart. In an interview with British Vogue, Adele has revealed that much of her latest album “30”, was written to help explain her divorce to her eight-year-old son, Angelo.
Talking about the single Easy on Me, Adele said: “I just felt like I wanted to explain to him through this record, when he’s in his twenties or thirties, who I am and why I voluntarily chose to dismantle his entire life in the pursuit of my own happiness.”
“It made him really unhappy sometimes. And that’s a real wound for me that I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to heal.”
Talking about her marriage with Simon Konecki, Adele explained that it just “wasn’t right for me any more.”
“I didn’t want to end up like a lot of other people I knew. I wasn’t miserable miserable, but I would have been miserable had I not put myself first.”
Adele and her former husband (who lives across the road from her) now reportedly share custody of their child.
How do you explain divorce to a child?
During the interview, Adele reveals that her son had lots of questions about the divorce. “Really good questions, really innocent questions, that I just don’t have an answer for.”
The best way to talk about divorce with children will largely depend on their age and their level of maturity.
A child’s concerns or questions may be very different to an adult’s. For example, many children focus on details about their daily lives, such as where the family pet will live or where their bed will go.
What is most important is to always keep communication lines open and to encourage children to talk about any worries or questions they may have. This way, your child can talk to you about their concerns before they grow into something bigger.
If you are considering a divorce, or have already started the divorce process and are worried about how your children may be affected, get in touch to book your free consultation with one of our specialist divorce solicitors to discuss how to deal with child arrangements upon divorce.